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When You Feel Inadequate How Do You Find Your Own Self-Worth?

Part Two: If I feel inadequate how do I find my own power?

I have been studying these Universal laws for many years now and have watched, not only what has been showing up in my life but in others also. What I have come to understand is that we tend to look for negatives more easily than the positives in life. We often feel inadequate and we try to cover this idea with many complaints. This is a psychological activity which we’ve been conditioned to. This shows up in how we respond to those situations which make us feel valueless and inadequate.

I realized how much I complained.

I found fault in outside circumstances and gave blame to those circumstances or people for what was happening to me, which, at the time I thought was unfair. I didn’t understand that every unwanted event, person and circumstance that entered into my life was being attracted by me and no one else, by the very thing I complained about. We all do this because it has been a prior condition to give emphasis to our inadequate view of other people. Which in turn is a comparison to our profound feelings of our own inadequate self. Simply put, we have been trained to grumble our way through life. We do this constantly without thought. We criticize, censure and disapprove of situations, events and people who show up in our lives that aggravate it.

Like everyone else I didn’t understand clearly what these inadequate thoughts was doing to me.

The more I complained the more I stressed the unrevealed inadequate feelings in me. The danger in this is more experiences and circumstances would be attracted to show me my inadequate side. Simply put, it would prove to me that I was what I had been led to believe I was, an inadequate person.

The truth revealed: I am amazing, brilliant and powerful. I obviously didn’t think of myself this way. Most of us don’t. We seem to draw on our shortcomings easily and wonder why they keep showing up in our lives.

What was revealed to me is so interesting. Those people that complained endlessly about the things they didn’t want—those endless unwanted things was showing up in their lives relentlessly.

I watched those who live and enjoy life and it would seem nothing really went wrong for them. In other words, they got what they wanted and expected. I came to the awareness "When You Feel Inadequate How Do You Find Your Own Self-Worth?"that these Universal laws were very powerful and that we do choose the life we want even if it is by default.

Our power is from within

But what I really came to understand was we have to get to that centered place in our lives of love for ourselves first. Our power is actually within. It’s about the way we treat ourselves. Some questions to ponder are:

  • Do you respect yourself?
  • Do you show love to yourself?
  • Do you see your own brilliance?
  • Do you see yourself as a deserving person?
  • Do you see yourself as much more than adequate?
  • Do you see yourself living a joyful life?

If these questions seem to be out of the range of what you think of yourself then you are not in your own powerful center. This means that you are not allowing the genuine you, the person you were born to be, and the life you were meant to live into your experience.

“Don’t get hung up on the hard times, the challenges. Tell your story by highlighting the victories. Because it’s your victories that will inspire, motivate, encourage other people to live their stories in greater ways.” Iyanla Vanzant 
  • When you live from a false premise of who you are you cannot attract the experiences that you were born to attract.
  • You cannot give love and receive it if you don’t love yourself enough.
  • You cannot be prosperous if you are thinking thoughts of poverty.
  • You cannot gain health if you are thinking of illness.

These all go against Universal laws. This is why you have to change the way you think. This is the way you become powerfully centered.

My life changed completely since I understand this Universal law. I live in joy most days but I still see things manifesting to complain about. The difference is I stop myself. I actually pull myself away from the thought of complaining.  I pivot to a better thought. I center myself to a better place.

In Part Three, you will find out how to become truly centered, and manifest a life you want.

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Pamela Hamilton Is an expert in the Law of Attraction, the co-author of Your Invincible Power series of books and the Vice President of the  Your Invincible Power Company  which assists in going beyond suffering and finding the ultimate joy we all have a right to.

"When You Feel Inadequate How Do You Find Your Own Self-Worth?"

EMPATHY : Understanding and Sharing Others Feelings

Empathy is one of the most important emotional skills to have for a happy and successful social life.

One morning, I woke up with a text saying “My son died last night in a motorcycle accident,” this text was from my best friend’s father. Being half asleep, I felt like it was a bad dream but it wasn’t – it was a sad and a tragic reality. This came as a shock to me as well as his parents. That same day I went to their house to share my condolences. All of the sudden I realized that, I wouldn’t see him anymore. Seeing the pain in his parent’s eyes, I could empathize with what they were feeling. I was heartbroken, just like their parents. We all grieved the loss of my best friend, together. This is what empathy is, understanding and sharing others feelings.

Empathy : Understanding and Sharing Others Feelings empathy : understanding and sharing others feelings Empathy : Understanding and Sharing Others Feelings EmpathyEmpathic people always try to express their feelings towards other’s problems with sympathy and they try to understand other’s feeling by putting themselves in other’s situations. They are selfless people whereas people without any empathy always keep themselves on top and don’t care about other’s feelings and emotions. Empathy is one of the most important emotional skills to have for a happy and successful social life. If you understand other’s feelings and help them, then you will always have someone in the world. For example, a relationship will not last long if a partner doesn’t have empathy towards their partner’s feeling. In human life, empathy is very important, but it is hard to find because everybody is thinking about themselves. These days, people are busy – all they care about is their future, their job, their wealth, and their hobbies. They don’t have time to think about other’s problems, troubles, or feelings. They also don’t have time to help them to solve their problems. I am thankful to have found friends full of empathy and kindness. When I first came to The United States a couple of years ago, I suffered from homesickness. I used to get stressed out easily and I felt very lonely. Then, I met a couple of friends in one of my English classes. They understood what I was going through and feeling and they helped me to get used to this whole new world.

In conclusion, empathy is a very important emotional skill to have. It helps one understand others feelings and emotions. People who are able to understand other’s emotions are more likely to have real friends and are able to be successful in all kinds of relationships.

Prabidh Sharma"EMPATHY : Understanding and Sharing Others Feelings"

I am a human being who doesn’t want to be identified as an Asian or as an American. I am not brown nor Desi. I want to be identified as a human being who is here to help helpless human beings no matter where they are from and what their race is. I don’t see color, I don’t see race. I only see human beings.

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Calling All Angels and Abraham-Hicks Lovers

Calling All Angels and abraham-Hicks Lovers

Since I came to an understanding of the Law of Attraction and the teachings of so many teachers and mentors I absolutely became fascinated with Esther and Jerry Hicks, Abraham. This is why I place Abraham quotes on our website every day. Even so, I had already started to write the book Love, Life and Beyond many years before this. I had had "Calling All Angels and Abraham-Hicks Lovers"the idea of non-physical mentors before I came across Abraham. I found the more I delved into this phenomenon the more it made total sense to me.

I had put Love, Life and Beyond on hold while life seem to take over.  I then lost my youngest sister, Janice at 48-years-old and a year later my mom, and then two years later my best friend and sister Yvonne.  I was completely devastated. Within a span of three years they were gone. It was a year after Yvonne’s death that I came across Abraham-Hicks teachings, so timely, when I was searching for answers to why they had suddenly gone from my life.

I soon came to the understanding that they are still with me

I came to understand that life is fleeting in a physical sense, regardless, our conscious mind lives on forever. I had stopped writing the book for quite a few years but realized that this book needed to be  "Calling All Angels and Abraham-Hicks Lovers"written. I not only poured myself through the stories of these families in this book but I felt an obligation to pass this idea that I had of non-physical mentors forward. I had to explain how life reacts to our way of thinking. I feel close to Abraham and the way the realignment of energies is interpreted in such a sensible way. All we have to do is use our good feeling thoughts, so simple!

Here is the youtube book trailer for Love, Life and Beyond

When I understood the knowledge based ideas of, “A belief is only a thought you keep thinking,” I started to use it in my life instead of following what everyone else was saying and doing and began to take control of my life. In doing so I realized how this Law of Attraction and Abraham stuff worked by watching other people’s lives. We can all see what our friends, family members and associates are doing wrong first before we see the mistakes we make ourselves in life.

I used the mentors to illustrate this concept more clearly

This is the way to take control over our lives. As I have said in other articles. If you are not a big fan of non-physical mentors or angels, then you can certainly read the story without taking in the messages that these mentors deliver. For those of you who, like me,  follow Abraham, however, I believe that you will find some strength in the mentor’s guidance.

Your Invincible Power, Open the Door to Unlimited Wealth, Health and Joy

Your Invincible Power is another book that me and my son have written together. I believe that if you enjoy Love, Life and Beyond you will find that Your Invincible Power, Open the Door to Unlimited Wealth, Health and Joy will take you a step further on your journey. We have "Calling All Angels and Abraham-Hicks Lovers"renewed, re-energized and rejuvenated Your Invincible Power with more tools and techniques. We now invite you to renew, re-energize and rejuvenate your life so that you too can take control over your own life and bring to you all those desires that will improve all aspects of your life, just like Abraham advises us to do.


Pamela Hamilton Is an expert in the Law of Attraction and the co-author of Your Invincible Power series of books and the Vice President of the  Your Invincible Power Company.

"Calling All Angels and Abraham-Hicks Lovers"

We have created a series of books to assist in the understanding and use of the Law of Attraction in everyday situation.

Your Friend, Pamela

Taking Control of the Wondering Mind

How to Control thoughts that don’t serve us

The major difficulty we have with taking control of our lives is trying to focus constantly on a desire that we want to bring forth. To take control is to reduce the thoughts about what has been and to focus on the moment we are in. To put it differently, the wondering mind is sometimes difficult to stabilize. To keep it from fluctuating from one subject to another sometimes seems impossible. However, there is a solution to this. girl-2157459_1920 "Taking Control of the Wondering Mind"

But, Why is this Important?

When you take control of the wondering mind you connect with your own power. You begin to steer your life in the direction of where you want it to go. This is the way you gain self control in all aspects of your life experiences.

 The Question then is How Do We Do This Successfully?

Everything that you think is an invitation to bring those thoughts into reality. The drawback to this is most of us use our wondering mind to perform an intellectual analysis of everything we do and everything that we know other people do. To put it another way, we spend far too much time pondering over why this and that happened and what we could have done to change it, or we may focus on what ‘we think’ others could have done differently. Simply put, we spend way too much time on trivial thoughts that are of no value to us.

What we should be doing is taking control over our wondering mind and thinking extensively on the direction of what we would desire our lives to be.

The dilemma when we allow the wondering mind to dominate our thoughts, is in essence, that we allow it to take us on a journey that isn’t always where we want to be. When we begin to watch where our wondering mind is taking us, and we see it inconsistently jumping all over the place, it isn’t any wonder that our lives don’t always go to desirable places.

At first it seems impossible to gain control over our wondering minds, but once we become aware of our thoughts it is possible that we can change directions of where we want them to be. An easy way to do this is by feeling our way to good thoughts

Understanding our Feelings

 Usually when our thoughts are going down the negative path we can feel it. We don’t feel happy, we feel uncomfortable and there is no delight or pleasure attached to the thought. When our thoughts are going down a positive path we feel enjoyment, gratification and mindmap-2123973_1920 "Taking Control of the Wondering Mind"excitement. Feelings are our powerful indications of where we are. We have far too many thoughts spinning through our wondering mind to grasp and control each of them. This would be far to exasperating to do. However, if we feel discomfort with what we are mulling over in our thoughts this is our intuition telling us that we are definitely going down the wrong path. This is why it is so important to find thoughts that are positive. When you move from negative thoughts to positive thinking your life will change directions and positive things, situations and people begin to show up for you. This is the way the Law of Attraction works.

Thinking is such a powerful process that most of us take for granted. Regardless, if you want to change directions in your life and bring wonderful, fun situations and people to it stop the wondering mind by feeling your way to positive thoughts. It works every time. It is Law!


Pamela Hamilton Is an expert in the Law of Attraction and the co-author of Your Invincible Power series of books and the Vice President of the  Your Invincible Power Company.

We have created a series of books to assist in the understanding and the use the Law of Attraction in everyday situation.

Your Friend, Pamela"Taking Control of the Wondering Mind"







Changing Your Destination, Thought by Thought

What has been difficult for most people, I have found, is that they don’t get the concept of how powerful thought is. We have learned that if we are born within a nucleus that is struggling we have no other choice than to go along with that struggle. We have never learned the importance and the power of thought. We believe that what we call fate is all we have in life and there are no choices only to make the most out of what we have.

“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve regardless of how many times you may have failed in the past or how lofty your aims and hopes may be.”

Napoleon Hill


What we haven’t understood is that we can change our destination at any point in time. This may be hard for some to believe especially if you’re in a place where your ultimate future seems to be doused in negativity and great limitation. But you are never stuck where you are. Never! You may be in prison, you may be in a country where there is constant war, you may be in a family where violence reigns. There are so many countless ways that negativity may dominate our lives and the message of hopelessness is the meditation-1087851_960_720 "Changing Your Destination, Thought by Thought"
emotion that is constantly with us. Even with all of this negativity surrounding one’s life it can be changed. There are people that have walked from war zones in Africa and escaped death to later become a doctor in America. There are countless stories of these sort of destination changes that a person can make.

To change your destination is to believe that you have a much better place in life to be than where you are right now. Why should you be born without choice and so many other people, it may seem to you, are born with so much choice? I am going to tell you without a doubt that you alone can change your destination by starting to believe right from where you are at this very moment in time that you are worthy of a much better and joyous life.

“You must first have the knowledge of your power; second, the courage to dare; third, the faith to do.”

Charles F. Haanel


How do you do this? You use your powerful thoughts to focus on the life that you so deserve. Make it your mission to focus on the details of the life that you would love to be living right now. If it’s money you need then see yourself with the money. It doesn’t matter if it’s lots of money just make it believable to you. Why I say believable to you is that if it isn’t deep in your subconscious you will place doubt if it’s not believable to you. If it is then img064 "Changing Your Destination, Thought by Thought"go for it no matter how enormous it may sound to anyone else. You see it’s your belief in what you think you deserve that counts. Once you get yourself to believe that you deserve a wonderful life with all of your desires met then the ideas, people and places start to change and the Universe opens up doors for you to go through, that were once walls. Everything starts to change. The most positive thing that you can do for yourself is to expect it. Expectation is a powerful place to be to manifest all of your ideas.

Start today and think your way to the wonderful life that you deserve. Remember the key to all of your desires is expectation along with the thought that you deserve it. And let me tell you, no matter who you are you are deserving and the Universe will give it all to you if you believe. This is your true destination believe it to be so.

"Changing Your Destination, Thought by Thought"
Your Friend Pamela

Pamela Hamilton Is an expert in the Law of Attraction, the co-author of Your Invincible Power series of books and the Vice President of the  Your Invincible Power Company  which assists in going beyond suffering and finding the ultimate joy we all have a right to.

Pamela also wrote a novel, Love, Life and Beyond to further promote the worthiness that we all hold title to. We just have to find our way to take ownership to what is rightfully ours.


Terrorist, Friend or Foe?

Terrorist attacks are endless news in these times it seems. But who are the terrorist?

Who do they represent? Do these terrorist exemplify their sect, religion? Do these known terrorist express their own families, religious group, government or even the view of the country they live in?

Yesterday we had our family picnic at the pleasurable Kelso park and conservation area here in Ontario. The park transforms from a ski and snowboarding locale in the winter to a labyrinth of mountain biking, hiking trails, and a wide assortment of picnic areas and a beach and boat area. Our family found a lovely shaded section with picnic tables to place the variety of food which was contributed by all. Continue reading Terrorist, Friend or Foe?

When The Journey Takes An Unexpected Turn

There will be times when it seems you are no longer on your path. There will be times when you think you are somehow on someone else’s journey. A journey you neither requested or wished for.


Don’t panic.


Don’t be afraid.


You are on this journey for a reason.


Some people believe that everything that happens to you is because at some point in your life you drew this situation to you. They believe you attracted it, no matter how awful, or painful that part of your journey is. I don’t believe this is true. I don’t believe that you attract every single thing that happens to you. I may be wrong but I believe I’m right. I believe that sometimes you are a part of someone else’s journey and for whatever reason this person needs to experience this twist of fate. Continue reading When The Journey Takes An Unexpected Turn

The Mentor Was a Wise Old Man

The mentor was a wise old man. He had lived a very interesting life at a time when knowledge wasn’t as readily available as it is today. The mentor always seemed to have the answers, even to the questions that didn’t exist in his time.


So he sat quietly and told the mentor the story of his old friend. He spoke in detail, for a few minutes, of the day at the park bench. He spoke about his old friend being lost in memory lane. And then he asked the question…”Why is my old friend holding on so tightly?”


There was silence. The mentor didn’t say anything. The room was filled with an emptiness, the unspoken quiet. Neither said anything more. The mentor was there but he wasn’t there. The mentor was somewhere else. Somewhere where the answers to questions are found. So he sat in silence waiting for the mentor’s response. Continue reading The Mentor Was a Wise Old Man