I recently helped an old friend that was stuck in the past. They didn’t know how to move forward. Once I realized this I sent them this letter.
They told me it helped a lot and that they read it all the time. The past can haunt you if you let it. I am sharing this with you and I hope it will help those of you that may be stuck also.
Life is a journey with many roads that lead to many different outcomes. The choices we make build the story that is our life. Sometimes you find yourself making the same kinds of choices over and over again and you feel like you are in a rut. This is because there is something that you need to learn before you can move on to the next chapter in your life. Problems will keep repeating themselves until you can acknowledge them and make the corrections needed to close the door on them.
Don’t let your past define you.
It is hard to move forward when you have so much attachment to the past. The past is something that happened and it is a memory that you will always have no matter if it was a good one or a bad one. Each person remembers the past in their own way to what is significant to them. You like all people are on this planet to experience joy and happiness. It is waiting for you but you have to allow it to find you. It cannot find you if you carry guilt or regret in your heart. You need to learn to forgive yourself for any mistakes that you have made in the past.
You have to let go of the guilt and move into the present, into the now. You must realize that you are standing in the middle of a spider’s web and each strand of that web represents a possible future that you can have. You must decide how you want your future to be and then chase that future. You can’t change the past nor can you fix it so you need to leave it in the past.
That means you need to leave all the things that happened to you growing up in the past too. Those things happened and made you who you are right now, but that is not who you will be in the future. You can choose to be happy and have a great life but it means forgiving yourself and leaving yesterday in the past as a finished chapter in the book of you.
Once you forgive yourself and move on, then you will be ready to have great relationships and life will start to become easier. How can you really love anyone if you are still holding on to an old story? Everyone else has moved on so it is your time now to say “It’s OK, I am ready to start a new chapter”
You need to live in the now.
You need to start expecting more out of life than what you have right now. You need to be the person you were meant to be. It is time to take charge of you and stop accepting life as it is. The first step is to let go of the past and forgive yourself.
Mistakes are only there so we can learn and grow. They are designed to create lessons to make us stronger, better, kinder, tougher and more wonderful than we are today. This is one of the ways we grow. This is how we move forward.
There is someone out there that is waiting for you.
This person will be the real love of your life, but if you don’t leave your past in the past you may never meet that person or you may not be able to keep that person in your life. You have to be ready to meet that person and have an open heart and be willing to give it to that person. You may think you have already met that person and now they are gone but I know without a doubt that this person has not come into your life yet.
Get ready to be that person’s soul mate.
Forgive all those that have let you down or hurt you. Forgive yourself for hurting the people you have even if they don’t forgive you. You don’t need their forgiveness all you need to do is forgive yourself and leave it in the past. Once you truly do that you will be ready to start a new chapter in your life. This is when you will see things turn around for you. This is when your relationships will become better. This is when happiness will start to grow in you and around you.
This is your mission, your goal, your job.
Do this for yourself and everyone in your life.
Let go of guilt and let happiness in.