Why do people often repeat the same relationship that they were so uncomfortable in previously?
This is a question many of us ask. We see those that get out of what we call “a bad relationship” to find themselves into the same relationship behind a different face. The face of that person is different but the personality is very similar to the last one. Some people repeat abusive relationships in procession and believe it is mere bad luck. Or worse than that, they believe they are not deserving of anything else. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Each person on this earth is deserving of joy whatever way it comes.
The reason this happens is because when that person ended that unwanted relationship they had not changed the vibration of what they wanted in a new relationship. They were still concentrating on all the facts of why they wanted it to end. They mull over all the wrongs that the person did to them. They think about all the reasons why they wanted it to end and realized that they just don’t want to ever repeat that relationship again.
So what happened?
They focus on what they don’t want. They reiterate constantly all those unwanted aspects of that person. They feel hurt of how destructive it was. They repeat thoughts of how hurtful they felt. These thoughts parade through their mind in continuation like an army of ants building their new kingdom. The problem with this is all those thoughts go out to the universe and the law of attraction ticks them off of the list.
This could possibly be you we are talking about. If so, please realize that the law of attraction is taking this inventory down believing it to be the list of what you are requiring in your next relationship. In other words, it gives to you what you think about constantly.
So, while you are thinking of what you don’t want you have signed the agreement to what you have coming towards you, and that is a repeated relationship of the last one. You have attracted this with your thoughts and the words that you have spoken to your friends, relatives in fact those people who buy into it. In other words, those that listen to your old story and agree with it.
How Do You Change This and Find the Great Relationship that You So Desire?
You let the previous relationship go. You focus on the relationship that you want. You look for all of those characteristics that you want in this new partner such as: attitude, quality of personality, attributes, appearance, demeanor, viewpoint, behavior towards you. Make lists of him/her. Think of all the ways this partner will honor who you are. Think of how you are deserving of this person, because I assure you, you are.
Forget about the past, no matter how injurious it may have been. Let it go. Once you stop thinking about what has past, and stop talking about it you have let it go. And then the more focused you are on this new relationship which you are seeking the more your vibration will match what you want. This is the way you bring a new, harmonious, healthy relationship into your life. It will find its way to you. It must. It is a universal law.
Make that list!
Pamela Hamilton Is an expert in the Law of Attraction and the co-author of Your Invincible Power series of books and the Vice President of the Your Invincible Power Company.
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