What is Love in a relationship?
This may sound like a strange question, however, it is the first thing one needs to ask before getting into a relationship. This question is so important because we feel that love is that sensational feeling that we have when we first meet a person that really turns us on. We have those exciting emotions that reach a high. We feel impassioned, aroused and stimulated. But, we never ask why because it’s just the way it is.
Did you know that three months within an intense relationship, and I’m talking about one with all the bells and whistles, meaning that you are both really into each other-is the very extent that a relationship can go without those rose colored glasses dropping down your face a little, maybe not quite a land-slide but definitely a slow glide? In other words, after around three months you will start to see those irritating characteristics that you so loved at the beginning, when you first met him/her, and yours will show up for him/her also. And for those that never really got to that point of wanting to be with this person every minute the landslide will develop very quickly. And so the point here is that for a relationship to survive the love as to be mutual and strong.
So here’s the thing; before you get to that point you really need to examine you.
Yes, I’m talking about how you feel about you. I’m not talking about examining yourself to find faults that you can change so that you can please this person in every way possible because to be frank, that is impossible. It’s just not going to work. To manifest a great relationship, you have to first understand you, and that means like you a lot. It even means to love yourself.
It’s now getting to be a bit of a cliché to say that we must love ourselves to really attract what we want in life, but this is a law of the universe. People who live an abundant life do so in every way because they know they deserve it. Relationships that are worthy of them turn up, money turns up and health is there just because they know they are deserving.
However, 85% of the world feel that they are not deserving of much and therefore have a hard time manifesting much. Within a relationship you have to feel your deserving of this partner. In fact, they are fortunate to have you just as much as you are to have this person.
Now, I understand that many of you haven’t got that person as yet. In fact, that person hasn’t even shown up yet!
So, what now, how do I manifest him/her?
You have to believe without a doubt that you will meet this person. Nevertheless, you can’t be needy since needy people push against what they want. Whenever we want something so much that it controls us we have to be careful that we aren’t stepping over that boundary line into the negative field. If our emotions are controlling us to a point that it’s uncomfortable, in other words, if we are so deep rooted in our need for this person then we are going against universal laws and that person won’t show up.
A deep love and respect for yourself is the key. You have to feel deserving of this love you are about to manifest, equally to what you would want the other person to bring to this relationship. Love is mutual, if it is to really work on your behalf.
We attract everything into our lives and true love is one of the great experiences we can easily manifest if we do it with kindness to ourselves.
We just have to really respect ourselves, which means to remind ourselves of how deserving we really are. Remember, that whatever we bring to this relationship is what we are going to get out of it. This means that if we don’t think we are worthy of love then we attract a partner that thinks the same about him/her.
The problem with this is you can’t give what you don’t have.
You may find love but it wouldn’t be the kind of love you really deserve. Love is in the air, and the most important thing that you need to know is that it’s in the air for you? In other words, you have to believe, with every part of your being, with no doubt, that there is someone out there just for you. Because there absolutely is!
Your friend Pamela
Pamela Hamilton is the co-author of Your Invincible Power series of books and the Vice President of the Your Invincible Power Company. We have created a series of books and training programs to assist you in the understanding and use the Law of Attraction in everyday situation.